Surviving the Dark Night of the Soul

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It’s been called the Void, the Abyss, the Cave, the Womb, the Dark Night of the Soul. Those who never experienced it can never fathom its reality, while most of those who are in its depths have no idea where they are. I was once trapped there for many years, but now I am slowly emerging. Oh! how dark it’s been!… I wrote this message because someone that I care deeply about has just descended into its depths. I hope that she and others like her will find it and use it to make their way out. I often stop to look back towards the center, towards a massive whirling cloud of menacing darkness, hoping to see a sign of her.

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The Boy and his Sandcastle

My beloved 12-year-old daughter asked me to share my story with you. I am having a difficult time deciding what to write, and from which point to start. Perhaps I should begin from the present and work my way back to the pas

This is my 12th year in prison. I received a life sentence after pleading guilty to being one of the ringleaders of the “Toronto 18” terror plot. Thankfully, no one was physically hurt. I was 20 then, I am almost 33 now.

In pre-trial custody, I was deemed a radical threat to the inmate population and so I was involuntarily placed in solitary confinement for 3 years.

After receiving my sentence, I was once again considered a radical threat and sent to Canada’s only super-max prison.  Usually, you have to kill or stab someone inside to be sent there, but not my case.  After spending 6 horrifying years there I was finally transferred to Millhaven max, where I currently reside. (This story was written in 2018)

Based on what you just read, it is easy to imagine me as a tough, violent, angry man with a threatening demeanor.  But the truth is that I am the exact opposite of that image.

Guilty, I am.
Radicalized, I was.
Yet I still find my entire situation incredibly surreal. I often go back in time in order to retrace my steps and figure out how I ended up here.  Sadly, every time I engage in this exercise, I find a young man who was caught up in a perfect storm of internal and external influences. The inevitability of it all is what I find most remarkable.

After any major terrorist attack there is usually a fierce debate about what makes individuals susceptible to radical ideologies.  Unfortunately, this rarely occurs when the perpetrators are non-Muslims (For example: Neo Nazi extremists in the States and Europe).  Having said that, if I had a noose around my neck, and the only thing that could save my life was the answer to this apparently dumbfounding question, then I would have to say that it is the emotional state of feeling utterly worthless.

I have always felt worthless. I still struggle with this feeling to this day. Perhaps I feel this way because I carry within me a strong inner critic that has been ripping me apart ever since I was a child. Or maybe, it is due to the fact that I have always felt like an outsider. You see, even though I am a citizen of this country, I have never felt Canadian.  That’s because ever since I arrived here as a 12-year-old-boy, in my mind, to be a real Canadian, you had to be white.

Prior to immigrating to Canada, I lived in my mother’s country of birth, Cyprus. There too, I felt like an outsider since I was keenly aware that my Arab features automatically disqualified me from claiming to be Cypriot.

Prior to that, I lived in Saudi Arabia where native citizens are infamous for looking down upon all non-Saudis. I still remember the words of a Saudi boy who referred to us Palestinians as “Phalas-Teezi”, (a hybrid word that combines “Palestinian” with the Arabic word for “ass”). The sad fact that I was sexually molested while living there could have only intensified my inner feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.

Even in Jordan, my own country of birth, I never considered myself Jordanian since I belonged to a family that originally came to Jordan as refugees after losing their land to the Israeli occupation.

Many of you have probably wondered why the Muslim world has produced so many radicalized individuals in the modern era. Blaming Islam for it is incredibly simplistic, if not absolutely wrong. When I look at what the people of that region have gone through over the last 150 years I am actually surprised that there aren’t more extremists, not less. I can’t imagine how utterly worthless many of them are made to feel. The culprits are foreign and local governments who systematically strip powerless human beings of their dignity.

What happens to a street vendor who can’t sell his fruits without having to pay a bribe to a policeman?

What happens to a young man or woman who just graduated from university, but can’t find suitable employment because all the jobs have been given to those with special connections?

What happens to a people who have no say whatsoever in how their governments are run and are treated like cattle, if not worse?

What happens to a people who have to live under the deadly shadows of drones?

What happens to a person who witnesses their entire family get wiped out by a “precise” missile strike?

Desperate for belonging to a people in my teen-age years, these are the only people I have ever felt an affinity towards, and so as they radicalized, I radicalized with them. Bush’s 2003 invasion of Iraq and its resulting massacre of hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis represented the crossing of the “Rubicon” for me. You can pretty much draw a straight line from there to my arrest in 2006.

How does it feel to be radical?

You feel worthy, righteous, and heroic. You see yourself as a savior of your people. Your mind obsesses with the injustices that they endure and it eventually becomes the only thing you wish to talk about. You see the world in strictly black and white terms. Deep inside you suspect that there may be other colours, which subconsciously drives you to engage in constant re-enforcement of your beliefs. It is said that those who are the most dogmatic are usually the least certain. A vivid depiction of this internal struggle is that of a boy who is perpetually fortifying the walls of a sandcastle he built too closely to the waves.

When I arrived at the Special Handling Unit (Canada’s super max) I was willing to give change a chance for the sake of my family, but unfortunately the administrators were unresponsive. Feeling rejected once again intensified my radical state and I, in fact, became more extreme in the SHU than I ever was on the outside.  Soon thereafter I adopted a standoffish attitude towards the administrators and refused meeting my parole officers for many years.

This state of affairs continued until ISIS declared its Caliphate and news of its atrocities began streaming in. Prior to ISIS, whenever innocent people were killed, I would simply tell myself that it was “collateral damage” or a “mistake”.  The savagery of ISIS, however, made this self deception extremely difficult to go on with.  Every atrocity committed by them was like a tsunami that would violently demolish my sandcastle, leaving no trace of it behind.  And yet, I kept frantically rushing back to rebuild it.

Eventually, the hideousness of this group led me to periods of depression that followed every massacre.  At the time, I did not see my radical ideology as separate from my religion, and so this caused me to fear that abandoning it would lead to abandoning my faith. I also feared confronting the reality that I may have thrown my entire life away and brought so much suffering upon my family for nothing…

Accepting the truth is never easy…

Holding on became harder and harder until it finally became impossible and I simply had to let go out of sheer disillusionment.  Surprisingly, what followed was not a free fall into a dark abyss of disbelief, but rather a spiritual ascent that is best captured in a poem I wrote called “Servant of the Ever-Merciful”.

If you are not as beautiful as the sun,
when it spreads its light,
upon the face of lands and seas.

If you do not glow as the full moon does,

in the midst of darkness,
illuminating the way for life’s travelers.

If you are not as graceful as the lofty clouds,

spreading shade over life’s scorched inhabitants,
raining water upon their parched lips,
bringing life to their dead lands,
then I am afraid,
you have misunderstood,
what it means to be,
a servant of God.

I felt liberated to finally be able to see the world in its true colours. This feeling only intensified as I slowly took the shackles off, one by one. 

How do I view my experience?

Despite its hardships and painful losses, I see it as a blessing. Sometimes I tell myself that I am acquiring a PhD in Life Studies from the University of the Incarcerated. My life feelings very meaningful life despite it being lived behind bars and I am incredibly optimistic about my future.

To God I am ever grateful for all of this…

I ask the Canadian public to forgive me for betraying their trust and welcoming arms.

I ask the Muslim community to forgive me for causing them so much apprehension by helping to cast them under a dark cloud of suspicion.

I ask my dear parents to forgive me for breaking their hearts.

I ask my brother and sister to forgive me for causing them so much sadness and distress.

I ask my former wife – whose loss I have never recovered from – to forgive me for abandoning her and devastating her in such a way.

I ask her entire family to forgive me for turning their lives upside down.

I ask all the young men who became involved because of me to forgive me for everything.

I ask their families for forgiveness as well.

Last but not least, I ask my beloved daughter to forgive me for leaving her without a father.

Princess, when I see you in my dreams I sometimes hold you in my arms and weep, and weep, and weep ‘till I awake.

Beloved, knowing what I know now, if I could go back in time to be with you, I would be there in a heartbeat.

But grieve no more, for I once heard that “the Truth shall set you free”…

And now I know…

That what I heard is true.


The Eagle’s Flight

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Oh, how my spirit soars!
above this place of tears and gloom,
resurrected after dying,
from the ashes of my doom.
Like an Eagle in full flight,
released, unleashed,
shackles broken, decimated, left behind

Never ever to be locked again,
delivered from despair’s deepest pit,
bearing words of hope and wisdom that I spit,
into dying hearts of people down below,
in the darkest, coldest, saddest places that I know.

Oh, how my spirit soars!
above this place of tears and gloom,
resurrected after dying,
from the ashes of my doom.


Planet Gazing

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I stood before the limits of my world,
and peered through the windows of my cell,
to gaze at a planet I was told,
was better than this “ever wretched hell.”
The people over there appeared so sad,
for pain was in the air they had to breathe,
with busy lives that drove them ever mad,
like hordes of mice chasing after cheese.
I stared with confusion at this scene,
and that’s when I heard an angel yell:
Contentment is the heaven of our being,
and lack of it is its greatest hell”



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O One who made this universe,
and gave each one their own purpose.
I sought you out throughout my life,
in every valley and every height,
in every secret cave on land,
in every trace of you I found,
up in heaven or on the ground,
I call on you, broken.

My tears ascend towards the sky,
I’m filled with pain that is no lie,
my life is hard I can’t deny,
I’m reaching my limits.

I journeyed on for all these years,
wiping away my lonely tears,
withstanding pain and piercing fears,
for only one purpose.

If all of those who are on land,
and those in heaven or beneath the sand,
or in the oceans and seas You made,
had turned away from me with hate,
and all I got was a loving glance,
from you to me and a second chance,
achieved is my purpose.




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Our sense of worthlessness is always built on an exaggerated story we tell ourselves. Humour can help us see it.

I’m from a town called Worthless.
East of Shame and North of Guilt.
Population: Unknown (They felt unworthy of being counted).
Popular dish: Roasted Self-esteem with Meek salad
Favourite pass time: Practicing invisibility
Hometown hero: Yours truly



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The ability to flow stems from the realization that our control over what happens to us is an illusion, and therefore like a river, we gracefully flow over and around obstacles instead of allowing them to hold us back. Those who do not flow with the river of destiny are always stuck in the stagnant waters of frustration, anger, and resentment. They are like a hissing cat that is being dragged while it’s nails are dug deep into the ever-moving carpet of life.

Flow, Flow, Flow…
Through every hardship and delight.
Flow, Flow, Flow…
Through the darkness and the light.
Flow, Flow, Flow…
Like a Monarch in its flight.
Flow, Flow, Flow…
Like a river in the night.




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They said to her,
though a child she was,
Why were you ever born!
She looked at them,
but could not speak,
so she began to crawl.

They said to her,
though a child she was,
Nothing you do is right!
She looked at them,
but could not speak,
so she began to run.

They said to her,
though a child she was,
We wish that you would die!
She looked at them,
but did not speak,
and instead began to fly.